family psychology secrets sick truth

Our sick little secrets!

Our sick little secrets! magnify
Interesting title, kind of like a supermarket tabloid you just can’t help but notice! Are you up for a story? Not too long ago in a land not too far from here I met a man…It was during a period in my life when I needed help…lots of it! That man was a psychologist, and I was in a group therapy setting. This man made a huge impression on me, I often refer to him as having given “emotional birth” to me! He didn’t give a RIP about my outward feelings, or if I “liked him” he rolled up his sleeves and dove right into my life casting garbage aside and booting lies until I was naked and bare before everyone! (thats kind-of like birth) He made me admit that my parents had screwed up with me, and that I grew up doubting that they really loved me. He crammed the idea of ME being responsible for my own feelings down my narrow throat, enlightened me to the possibility that “I” based on my perceptions,could control my thoughts,which produce my feelings. I noticed that a lot of people in our group hated him…lol a few of them actually walked out of group when he was on “their case.” In the years since then I’ve never forgotten this man, (obviously) or how his “tough love” worked on me…and I love him still. He spoke the truth in love to me, and it changed my life…he didn’t let me squirm away and hide behind some dis-functional lie in my belief system, he pressed on toward the goal, he cared more for my future than my present dis-comfort. Is this just my reminiscing or is there a point to all of this? maybe just this…while there is a time to be gentle and considerate of peoples sensibilities (especially in a therapy setting) I feel that much more is accomplished by confronting peoples objections and excuses directly. Wheather it’s psychology or theology it doesn’t matter, in theology we typically wait until the spirit opens doors for us to “work” what psychology has taught me is that our behaviors ARE the doors, they are the”cry’s for help” we’re unable to give words to. They’re the outward expressions of inner problems relating to the spirit. Some people will object when it’s suggested that the source of their behavior is spirit related and will resist the attempts made to help them…now we can talk about how we’re only as sick as the secrets we keep, the lies we believe, the healing power that we embrace, and our bad choices. I would therefore submit to you that because I can “see” a car coming down the street that it has a direct bearing on the decision I make to walk out in the street…why? because I care for my life. If I believed LIES I’d probably walk out into the street and get hit, and be another casualty of this modern life. But the TRUTH shall set you free! Lord, I pray that you would use me as an instrument of thy peace and not the whole orchestra, and a minister of your truth, to set the captives free. help me to know Lord that I am but just a part! That I may plant seeds but it is you that gives the increase, that I may bring the message but it’s the Holy Spirit who convicts and changes hearts…amen


By altonwoods

I've always loved to write...and since I've discovered blogging it's been my pleasure to share my perspectives and experiences with the whole world!

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